As with anything, everyone has their own 2 cents about motherhood and what it is like to be a mom. I know that I had a lot of different people giving me tips and advice about motherhood when I was pregnant, and I really appreciated (almost all) of that! 😉
However, the truth of it is (and I say this to almost everyone) that no one and nothing can prepare you for motherhood except being a mother. There are things that you just can’t possibly know or be ready for regardless of how many books you read or people you talk to. But it also isn’t as scary as you think – and I want to take a moment to debunk some myths about motherhood:
MYTH #1: Your Entire Life Will Change (negative connotation)
The facts are true – your life definitely changes. But not everything in your life is now different in a bad way! You have another person in your life to care for, love, and be selfless with. So naturally that brings change to certain aspects of your lifestyle. But I still hang out with friends, go out for dinner with my husband, and watch my favourite shows on tv. It just means Mason does these things with me/us now, or he gets to spend some time with one of his amazing sets of grandparents, or his adoring father (who is oh-so-good to me!).
MYTH #2: You Won’t Have Any Time to Take Care of Yourself
Again, a baby does mean that your priorities shift… and often that means I sit in my PJ’s for a lot longer than I normally would (it is 11:30am right now and I’m still not dressed) or have a granola bar for breakfast because there isn’t time for me to make bacon and eggs. HOWEVER, I know I feel waaaay better when I put on a bit of makeup, wear clothes that aren’t sweatpants, and have a cup of coffee first thing in the morning. And guess what? Babies sleep!!! There is time to take care of yourself. Maybe not as much time as you’re used to (my 45 minute getting-ready routine has been drastically reduced to 15 minutes) but you can still do it. Also, take advantage of times when your hubby is home or your mom can come over and take a long, hot shower, or have a nap. Taking care of yourself is super important too!
MYTH #3: You’ll Be Too Busy for Friends (especially ones without kids)
Okay, yes. In the first few weeks, I pretty much hibernated in my house because I was exhausted, sore (c-sections will do that to ya!), and still looked 5 months pregnant so basically didn’t want anyone to see me. BUT after that phase passed, I was ready to get out into the world, and I made sure my friends new it too. The worst thing you can do as a new mom is isolate yourself. And I know that I have been guilty of doing that to myself a few times, but all it does is make me feel lonely. So instead, take the initiative to invite a friend over for tea, or go out for lunch and bring the baby along. Worst case scenario? Baby gets fussy and you get a little stressed. At least you’re not by yourself!
MYTH #4: Everyone Is Going to Judge Me When My Baby Cries
As a new mom, it can be pretty intimidating to go out in public with your baby — especially if he/she is a bit unpredictable like Mason! I felt (and still sometimes feel) very anxious leaving the house with him – particularly when I’m on my own – because he is still in the phase where if he is asleep, I don’t know if he’ll wake up happy or upset. If I am at the mall, for example, he might start screaming and I’m there pushing the stroller around like a madwoman “SHHHH”ing him in his face (trust me, babies like it) trying to get him to calm down long enough that I can just get outta there!! But what I’m realizing is that I am way more stressed about it than I need to be, because 99% of people totally understand and know that babies cry and why in the world would they be judging a mom with a crying baby?? Not sure, but somehow it gets in our heads that people are doing just that. *shrug*
MYTH #5: You Couldn’t Care Less About Getting Pooped On
I kinda thought, “It’ll be my baby, I won’t care about getting a little poop on me from time to time.” Ummmm NOPE. I guess maybe some people (like my mom) think that baby poop is no big deal. When Mason is having a bath and I’m transferring him from undressing him on the change-table to the tub, I stop for an extra minute just to have some skin-to-skin time and look at that cute little bum! So I get why some mama’s do get pooped on.. haha! But I’m just gonna say that poop is poop and I don’t want it on me. 🙂
Are there any things that you’ve been told about motherhood that you found weren’t true? Or are wondering if there is any truth to what you’ve been told? Share in the comments below! 🙂